Sibling love will teach you that you will give them your kidney but sharing your charger and clothes with them is where you draw the line. It will teach you that sometimes we take too many things for granted especially our family members, we imagine we will live forever and we will have forever to actually show love to each other. But that’s the way it is, we may never say we love you, but we will surely show it. You just need to be keen enough to pick it. And even when life happens and it looks like darkness is engulfing you; your family will be right next to you to remind you of your light. The light you’ve always had. People you call family will not see you wasting yourself away and leave you to be dragged away by the wolves, they will encourage you to pick yourself up, wait for you until you’re ready to start again, and you’ll realize they never at one moment left your side.
You will move away from home and you will start meeting new people. If you’re like me, you find yourself naturally being choosy about everything, which also extends to people, and sometimes it takes very long to make a friend, but eventually you make really good friends. The heart knows it’s people. It picks them for you. What I’ve gathered about friendship by now is that if you’re always investing more energy than the other person, that’s not your friend. All relationships especially adult relationships must be flowing easily, no one should feel like they are forcing and pushing themselves out of their way for the relationship to work. If you look back at all the long term friendships you’ve gathered up-to now, you will realize that they simply felt right. The ones that fell off are those that one person stopped putting in the work. More like they left it for only the other person to pull. And you will always know it.
It’s also in loving people that you have to check yourself out when you realize that you’ve said or did something that hurt them. And you have to love them enough to sit yourself down and acknowledge that indeed an apology is needed. You can’t go through life imagining you’re the one that people should apologize to but never apologizing to people when they need it. Some relationships died because our egos were too big to allow us to handle the issues that were present at the time.
But even in loving people, you have to love yourself enough to never lose your inner voice; your intuition. You have to love yourself enough to know when you’re