And as always, let’s claim progress, not perfection. As long as you are moving forward, no matter how slow, be proud of your steps. You are doing well.
She went away fully aware that whatever this date was about, her therapist would be glad to know that she is secretly an enabler of confusing people who keep coming back, after many years.
Sometimes they come back to confuse her, other times they help her find herself. And finally, perhaps, this could be a starting point of their therapy sessions.
There’s also pressure from parents and the society for you to get married. What they don’t understand is this stage is as crucial as it comes. For instance, I now understand that marriage and someone getting a baby is not the same thing. You may get a baby before marriage with someone then realize this is not someone you will get married to. The dynamics again. And there are those that get married then have babies. Both instances are fine because people have personal reasons as to why they do the things they do.
There is something about a mother in a group of other mothers. They are very confident, loud and aggressive. Especially to their children. You will pass -by and they will burst out laughing about how they were all there when you were born and now you walk like you own the world. You will only hear ‘Hmm. Hmm. Hahaha,’ followed by whispers as their eyes follow you until you get out of their sight. But you will soon realize that they mean no harm.
You will surprise yourself how far you can go. Even with fear, keep learning and keep pushing.
Men, what’s your story on that haircut that did not go like you wanted? I’ve shared my story here. Ladies, I know you can relate. Please, read and share yours .